Releasing Trapped Emotion
I'm going to share a method to process and transcend trapped emotions/trauma*. The skeleton of this method came from one of my clients, Quantum Healing Hypnosis Technique session, I have chosen to elaborate for ease of use.
1. Accept what has happened.
Often, we choose to "block out" trauma instead of moving into the direction of acknowledging it. This is because we hope to avoid the more painful emotions that are to be experienced once, we acknowledge what took place. It's important to note that after we accepted what has happened, we are finally giving ourselves permission to process the experience and heal. Sometimes we fear that these emotions will be all consuming if we allow ourselves to feel, however the painful emotion will dissipate after it is given the needed attention. This won't necessarily be a "pretty" process, tears may be shed, but peace will follow! Be patient with yourself.
2. Forgive everyone involved, without expectation of reciprocation.
It may be best to start by forgiving yourself. I recommend beginning by acknowledging the inner child, or the part of yourself that had the first experience with the emotion you're addressing. We all experience emotion on a spectrum. Certain situations allow for us to experience an emotion more strongly than another. As we gain compassion for our inner child we can begin to understand when people act out, it's a result of a damaged inner child. Forgiveness should never be forced. Forgiveness is a natural byproduct as a greater level of understanding and compassion is cultivated. It's helpful to look at the situation as an opportunity to deliberately heal and come back to wholeness. Victimizing and blaming are detrimental to the healing process.
3. Verbally apologize, without blame.
Once you have forgiven yourself and the others involved, after understanding the inner child, apologizing will flow naturally. What we must look out for is when we say, "I apologize..." and then afterward we have an internal dialogue that usually starts with the word "...but..." This nullifies your apology in its entirety. The way to avoid this is to take full responsibility for the chosen reaction we expressed. Truth is, we made a choice to express. Irresponsible/impulsive expression is our own wrongdoing.... However, as we have come to understand, this happens as a result of a damaged inner child. Maintaining compassion for everyone involved, including oneself is important.
4. Start over.
Let it go! Each moment is an opportunity to heal. Holding on to any hurtful emotion will only cause self-inflicted suffering. Behind all the chaos we all have a story, with many layers. As we go through this process, we will begin to piece ourselves together again, returning to that joyful child.
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*Trauma is often left unacknowledged if it isn't dramatic. Most, if not all emotional upset as an adult is an echo of childhood traumas. This trauma can be as small as not being picked up when you were crying as a baby.
From conception until about age eight we make decisions based off our felt perception versus our intellect, meaning that we are weaving a web of associations based off feelings instead of truth, this is done in the hopes of self-preservation.
Yet, when we get to adulthood, we seem to self-sabotage. The truth is,
whatever seems to be "self-sabotage" is only ever allowing for us to maintain emotional
homeostasis, or what we know to be "normal" from childhood.
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